Lakes Family Mediation have a strict set of rules and like any good mediation service we expect our customers to respect each other and follow the rules to ensure the process has the best chance of success. Contact Lakes today
Rules Of Mediation
A lot of problems can arise due to the separation of the parents for the child and the parents themselves.
These problems have to be handled correctly by following the correct procedure. If the parents use their own experience to handle the situation, there are no rules which are prevalent during the process. In the absence of rules, there can be a lot of unnecessary fights that delay decision-making which will eventually affect the life of the child.
There has to be a proper handling of financial information as both parents have to provide some financial support to the child in order to fulfil their basic needs and wants. Apart from financial support, there is a moral support that has to be provided to the child so that are happy and feel loved.
There is a systematic process that the mediation process asks for by laying down some ground rules during the whole situation of asking different questions that are personal to the parents. The questions are mainly related to the income they earn and the savings they do during the maintenance of balance in the work life and any new family they have.
The process of mediation can become time-consuming if the parents wish to make decisions on all the matters or if they want to take decisions on some matters by themselves and they want to take help from the mediators in others.
It must be decided by the parents that on what matters they want to take help from the mediators as the mediators can answer all the questions immediately when they arise in the minds of all the parties involved.
It is recommended by all the experts that an expert third party must be hired to take decisions as it is the question of the life of all the people who are involved in the separation process.
Lakes Family Mediation And Some Ground Rules In The Process
There are some ground rules that must be laid down before the process of mediation starts. These rules must be made clear in the minds of the parents by the mediator. As there are various rules to disclose the information also some rules are there to smooth the way and make the communication process more effective. For the communication to be effective during mediation, mediators assist the parents to develop some of the ground rules. Following are some rules which the mediator lays down before the communication process starts.
- Parents must not interrupt each other while they are saying something. This will result in a fight and none of the points will be made clear to the mediator.
- Parents must call each other by names and not using pronouns to address their ex-husband or wife.
- There must not be any practice of blaming or attacking the other party in order to gain proper clarity of the situation. Parents must not put each other down by asking inappropriate questions.
- Parents must think about the child before thinking about themselves as the main purpose of mediation is to secure the life of the child. They must realise that it is a child who is being affected the most by the separation.
- Parents must listen to each other with due respect and sincerity and try to understand the needs and wants of each other.
- There are various perspectives under which the situation can be seen and they must respect all the perspectives that both the parties present.
- The focus of the discussion must be for the future and long-term and not for the past.
- There must be no unproductive argument between both parties and they must agree to listen to each other carefully and making the fairest decision keeping in mind the life of the child.
- If something is not working correctly for the parents they can tell the mediator directly about it.
- All the legal formalities are to be fulfilled by the parents and the mediator before starting the process of mediation.
- If the parents or the mediator need a break in between the process, they can ask for it without any hesitation.
- The parents can point out to the mediator if they are not being as impartial as they are supposed to be. The mediator must work in the interest of all the parties involved keeping in mind their own opinion as well.
The above are some ground rules which must be followed while carrying out the process of mediation which will make the communication more effective and avoid any delay in decision making which will work best for the future of the child.